Guidelines in Picking a Possible Fuck Buddy

Alright! I know you're probably wondering why my blog posts are related to fuck buddies / friends with benefits / no strings attached relationships. Well, I guess you could say that I can relate to it, in a way. It helps me in keeping tab on the things that I should consider and remember when it comes to this kind of relationship. And I just felt like sharing it to other people who might need a guideline or people who are just interested or curious.

A fuck buddy relationship is not as simple as it presents itself. It is complicated. Much more complicated than a romantic love affair. There are rules and boundaries that you have to keenly observe, follow and respect. Well, let's start from the basic, shall we?

in Picking a Possible Fuck Buddy

You definitely don't want to just choose a random person to be your fuck buddy, don't you? You want a fuck buddy because you want your sexual urges to be sated, without the drama and complications of love SO YOU NEED TO BE CAREFUL ON WHO TO CHOOSE.

1.) Pick someone you're comfortable with

- Of course he/she must be someone who you could feel free to be yourself and you truly are comfortable with so there won't be any awkward moments especially when you're doing the deed. And plus side? It would be easier to suggest to be more adventurous or whatever you feel like suggesting to spice up the sexual relationship.

2.) Make sure he/she is free from any transmittable disease, specially sexual related

- You don't want to get a nasty disease, don't you? Remember, your safety is the priority. If you're not safe, there would also be lesser chances of you getting laid. I'm not sure if that's a bad thing but for me, it is. Just kidding. What I'm trying to point out is YOUR HEALTH MUST BE TREASURED!

3.) Make sure your partner isn't committed to anybody else

- No one wants to be a third party even if the relationship is purely sexual. And you can make sure and guarantee of the safety of the bedlationship if you two are exclusive fuck buddies. (You can see why on the rule number one of my other blog post on Guidelines for Fuck Buddy Relationships)

4.) Make sure that your partner is someone you could trust

- And if possible, it would be better if he/she were someone who you really are acquainted with for quite some time. Someone who you really know you could trust. Trust is the foundation of every relationship, after all. 

5.) Make sure that your partner is someone who can unleash the beast in you 

- Sounds weird? But hey, let's be honest. You want a fuck buddy to satisfy your lust, right? So obviously, pick someone who can make you wild! On or off bed. (You can do it on other places) Alright, I was trying to joke around but my point is, pick someone whose sexual urges are on par with yours. Or in simple terms, someone who you are sexually compatible. 

So there are the five main guidelines in picking a possible fuck buddy, you can add a few more but overall, those stated above are the most essential in picking a fuck buddy. SO, HAVE FUN SEARCHING <3

Ten Signs That Your Girl Has Given Up On You

Dear guys, we all know that girls are complicated and hard to read but here are ten sure telltale signs to look out for most girls that will tell you when she has already given up on you. Or maybe, starting to give up.


1. SHE WILL NOT TRY TO CATCH YOUR ATTENTION.

- Girls like to fish for attention, whether in an obvious or secretive manner, they always want to catch the attention of the people who they are interested with. So the moment she stops trying to fish for compliments or even catch your attention, immediately ask her. She might say, "Nothing's wrong." but trust me, when a woman says nothing is wrong, SOMETHING IS DEFINITELY WRONG. So don't give up or chicken out until you find out what has been bugging her.

2. SHE WILL NOT FIGHT FOR YOU ANYMORE.

-This doesn't necessarily mean cat fights but the fact that she'd care less and even stop getting jealous means that the relationship is going downhill. One trait that is rampant among most females is that they easily get jealous, even with the most nonsensical thing in the world. They get jealous because they care a lot about the people they are interested with. (Well, the level and intensity of the jealousy differs among females though so you better watch out for that.)

3. SHE WON'T REPLY YOUR MESSAGE QUICKLY ANYMORE.

- Females always reply fast as much as possible to the people they are interested with. Even if they're doing something important, she'll always be mindful and reply as fast as she could. So one indicator that she has started to give up is when she replies late or it takes too long for her to respond even if she is doing nothing. And worst? When she says she's busy to reply even when in reality, she's absolutely doing nothing.

4. SHE WON'T TRY TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING ANYMORE.

-As I have said, females like to catch the attention of the people they are interested in and would do anything to keep the conversation going. Even if the replies are total conversation stoppers, if a female is truly interested, she would divert the conversation to another topic but if not, she'll leave it as is and man, you need to remedy that ASAP.

5. SHE WILL NOT CARE ANYMORE.

-I'll make this short. She'll stop caring. She'll stop asking if you ate already, where you have been, what your plans are, where you plan on going, who you're with, what you're doing. That kind of stuff. She would no longer care and she would no longer be curious.

6. SHE WILL NO LONGER BE JEALOUS.

- As I said, females get jealous easily even on the most nonsensical thing in the world but that is just a proof that they care a lot. So once she will no longer be jealous then that only means that she doesn't give a damn about you any longer. Poor guy :(

7. SHE WILL FLIRT AND TALK TO OTHER GUYS.

- Faithful females would always avoid flirting and talking to other guys in fear that the person they are interested in might misunderstand so it would be an obvious sign that she has already started to stop minding about your existence in her life.

8. SHE WILL NO LONGER CARE IF YOU CARE OR NOT ANYMORE.

-Whether they'd admit it or not, girls would always try to make you jealous or mad just to see and check if you care about her or not. But once she stops trying and even caring to the point of sarcasm, well, I suggest you better prepare yourself buddy.

9. SHE WILL NO LONGER GO TO YOUR PROFILE AND WHINE TO PEOPLE ABOUT HOW HAPPY YOU ARE TALKING TO OTHER GIRLS.

-Girls will always be girls. The jealous type. They'd stalk, observe and check your movement most of the time if possible and when she sees something that would make her jealous, she'd transform into a drama queen and make her FB wall a way to vent out what she feels. I'm not saying all though, but MOST girls are like that. So even if you get lovey dovey with someone on your account publicly, in hope of making her jealous, once she gives up, SHE WON'T CARE CAUSE SHE ALREADY STOPPED KEEPING TABS ON YOU.

10. SHE WILL GIVE UP ON TRYING TO MAKE YOU LOVE HER BECAUSE SHE FINALLY REALIZED THAT SHE DESERVES BETTER. 

-If you add all the signs, everything will add up to this. She will give up on everything related to the two of you. She will give up on pleasing you, on making you happy, on making you love her more because she realized that she deserves someone better. No matter who's fault it might be, the bottomline is she has given up on you and it is up to you if you'll make it up to her so the relationship will sail smoothly again or if you will just give up too.

Personally, I believe that everything could be solved through peaceful talking so if you truly love your girl, don't and never take her for granted because once she gives up on you, it would take a long time on winning her back :) Happy loving, people <3

Ten Rules/Guidelines for Fuck Buddy Relationships

"Ten Rules / Guidelines for Fuck Buddy Relationships"

1.) No Sleeping With More Than One Fuck Buddy
- I know you're like, "What? Then what's the point of the whole friends with benefits thing if I can fuck one person at a time?" Srsly dude and gals, hold your horses. YOU HAVE TO BE SAFE. I know there are contraceptives but it isn't a hundred percent safe, you know. You don't want to go around unprotected and get some nasty disease plus, you don't want to say the wrong name cause that would totally ruin the mood.

2.) Make Sure Both Parties Know It Is a Fuck Buddy Relationship
- Before indulging in the deed, make sure both parties know that the relationship is purely sexual and for fun. There is a huge tendency (specially for girls) to go a bit overboard with their emotions and even affect the relationship. Girls, admit it or not, we do go overboard at times. I admit, I was like that when I first started but I got used to it later on. So make sure to clearly assess the relationship so no one would get hurt in the end 

3.) Don't Act Like The Other Person Doesn't Exist Outside The Bedroom
- Fuck Buddies, people! Take away the fuck and you are BUDDIES! FRIENDS! So don't act like you don't know each other after the deed or whenever you happen to meet up accidentally or whatever. You get the point.

4.) Don't Act Like The Other Person Is Your Significant Other 
- This is totally related to rule number two. You're not going out. You don't have a romantic relationship so you don't have any right to be jealous or be downright unreasonable when he / she happens to flirt with another person. As long as your partner doesnt break the first rule, then nothing is wrong with that 

5.) Be Honest About Emotions 
- Shit happens when you try to deny yourself about what you truly feel. If you happen to develop special feelings for your fuck buddy, tell her/him directly and you can talk about what should be the next step. And please, whatever your position would be, be honest about what you feel. If you like each other, take everything slowly. If not, then discuss what countermeasure should be done for that developing emotion. Your relationship is formal and kind of, business like, if you ask me so it should be discussed in serious manner when you're talking about emotions.

6.) Is This An Open or Closed FB Relationship
- Make sure your agreement on that matter is clear. If you want to keep your relationship hidden, well then tell your partner. If he/she agrees, then it's alright. But if it's a NO, accept it. Not everyone accepts the idea of Friends with Benefits relationship as a good one, so personally, don't blab to other people. You can talk about it to close and chosen people but don't be a fucking tattletale. AND REMEMBER, ONLY WITH PERMISSION FROM YOUR PARTNER 

7.) Buddies First
- Relate this to rule number three. You're buddies! FRIENDS! Make sure that the person that you're having a FwB relationship is someone you're comfortable with. You don't want to fuck someone who you're awkward with, right? And if the rule between the two of you goes like, talk-fuck-leave, then that's it. But if it goes like, hang out-talk-fuck-stay over then let it be. Just don't go overboard and be romantic cause that would totally ruin everything.

8.) No Romance 
- This is totally related to rule number seven and DAMN, THIS RULE IS A BIG ONE! A total NO-NO! You're relationship is not romantic so DON'T MAKE IT ONE! Romance is too close to love and remember, you can only be romantic to someone who you really want to be involved with. Bringing in romance to a FwB relationship can cause trouble and you don't want that.

9.) No Comparisons
- Well, comparing is just downright rude. It's a new person. New body to explore. No two bodies are the same. Be adventurous. Explore. Don't be tied to your previous partners.

10.) The Ending 
- Same like any other relationship, when it comes to an end, don't be hung up on it. Stay friends even though a big change has happened. Everything will just work out right. Respect each other's decisions if one day, your partner, or maybe you will want to terminate the relationship. The reason might be, either one of you has found a romantic love affair or maybe one of you decided to cool things off due to work related or family related or whatever related issues. Respect, accept, move on. That's just how life goes. 

Oh and just another tip, PLEASE DON'T CHOOSE A FuBu WHO IS COMMITTED! Karma slaps like a bitch, you know  Maybe I should create a guideline on how to choose a Fuck Buddy hahaha. Oh well.