So this is the Paolo Bediones scandal which became the talk of the town last week. Anyway, I posted this on my blog not as an insult to the characters involved but to establish the fact that there is nothing wrong with making your own sex videos. When it gets leaked and it happened that the video becomes a proof of your infidelity, then that is another story.

Plus, I have to point out that this certain video is actually good. Compared to other scandals and amateur sex videos, it has its own charm. Both parties are attractive and you can see that they were really actually enjoying the deed. To make the story short, this video isn't disgusting at all.

P.S. Nobody reads my blogs anyway so it's not that much of a problem to post the video here.

What Men Dislike When It Comes To Sex

Girls who are probably reading this right now might be thinking, "Really? There are things that guys don't like when it comes to sex?" Oh well, it's natural for women to think that way, most of us think that men don't have any preferences, just give them a hole to enter and they'll happily ram their dongs in it.

But that isn't true. Well, most of the time. Men are unique. They differ from each other, from the types of girls they like to how they like it on bed. So I asked around and collected answers from most of my friends and some strangers. There might be guys and even gals, who might not agree with this, so I will point out once again that men's tastes differ from one another. Plus, all of these are their opinion, it is up to you to agree or disagree :)

Here goes!

1. TOO NOISY

Sex is so much better when you can express the level of intensity through your voice. But ladies, kindly keep in mind that too much noise is annoying. You just can't go around screaming your lungs out. Try to keep your voice loud enough only for the two of you to hear. But then again, if your guy is the type who likes to hear you scream for more, then I guess there's nothing wrong with that. But guys normally prefer when you can just moan in a natural, normal and sensual way.

On my point of view, it's kind of hard. I have never been the quiet type. But I do know how to suppress my voice depending on how my partner likes it and on where we are doing it. If you're being kinky in public, you definitely don't want to scream to the world that you're doing something naughty, right? But still, suppressing your voice has its benefits, you can feel the sensations better this way.


2. TOO DEMANDING

Woman on top is a very sexy and kinky idea but let's face it, women being too dominating during sex and too demanding is a total turn off. The woman would be presenting herself to be bossy, making the man nervous or the act might lead the man to lose his cool or his confidence. Yes, you can demand. You're free to do so. But always remember to keep an equal relationship when it comes to demanding. Guys have feelings too. Their ego is way bigger than us girls so it is up to us to satisfy their manly ego as their partner. If you come off to be too demanding and bossy, you might end up losing the chemistry between the two of you.

On my part, I rarely demand. I am the pleaser type. I'd prefer to please rather than to be pleased. Well, I'm not saying that I don't want to be pleased but if I could please my partner in any way possible, it would be sure that he would definitely please me back in return. Unless he's a total asshole who doesn't even know about the give or take rule though. But thus said, if you're partner feels satisfied, he, in return, will also give it his best to satisfy you too. But then again, there are certain things that I do dislike when it comes to sex and when the push comes to shove, that's the only time I demand for "No" but even if I say no, I'll do whatever I can to make up for that.


3.  TOO CHATTY

It is okay to be chatty but being TOO CHATTY is definitely a no. Most men like a little bit of peace after the deed has been done. Or if we're going to look at it on the "during" perspective, of course, no one would definitely like someone talking nonsense while you're trying to make love or fuck (might as well point out that making love and having sex are different matters). It definitely ruins the mood.

So I guess I'll be sharing an experience of mine, this was the most recent experience that I had and I admit, I was too chatty. I was really comfortable with him and we had so much to talk about I ended up sharing and talking a lot while we were doing the deed. Good thing he told me that I was starting to get really chatty and I caught myself and made it up to him in the second round. I loved how he moaned and cursed (WHO'S THE NOISY ONE NOW?!) Hahaha! But I realized that being too chatty can actually ruin the mood.

4.  TOO MUCH MAKE UP ON 

Alright, I can't help but agree on this one A LOT. Putting on make up is okay but make up on even during sexy time? A bit of powder and lip tint would do the trick but too much make up is definitely a no go for me. I find messy hair a total turn on though but smeared make up definitely ruins the mood for me. If your make up isn't water proof then just wash it off before going to bed. Men prefer the natural look, as what most of them told me. I even watched porn videos before where the lead female porn star had too much make up on her it looked disgusting beyond words when she started sweating due to the intensity of how she was fucked. Okay seriously, who won't get sweaty after a sweet, satisfying sex session? Get my point? Go for glowing skin against dim lights (light, oil control powder) and sexy sultry lips that looks begging to be kissed (lip shiner / lip tints). Be natural. Messy hair looks hot but don't overdo it though.



5.  TOO STIFF

Stiff girls suck! A lot! And I don't mean stiff in the sense where she's hard as a fucking twig! I meant stiff like she doesn't even enjoy what they're doing and she just lies there, letting the guy do whatever he wants with a displeased look on her face and when the guy asks her what's wrong, she'll just say "NOTHING". IS THAT NOT A TURN OFF FOR YOU?! Well?

Guys like it more when girls are into it. Even with blowjobs. It doesn't matter if you can't give a proper blowjob. It doesn't even matter if you can't deepthroat him, as long as he can see and feel that you're into it, whatever the fuck on Earth you're doing will be more enjoyable. What more on the actual intercourse, right? So ladies, feel it, enjoy it and LOVE EVERY FUCKING SECOND. Like literally. 


SO THERE YOU GO! These are the Top Five and the most specific among all the answers that I've collected from my friends and a few others. Well there are still other answers like, too hairy (girls who don't trim or shave) or too smelly (not the musky odor smell of the vagina, rather than the body smell) or even too shy but I just picked the Top Five among the answers haha. So ladies, whether you agree or not, it would be best to keep these in mind. And for guys, if it so happens that there is something about your partner that turns you off that can be easily changed, telling her nicely what it is that bothers you won't hurt so don't hesitate to do so. Thanks for reading <3

Guidelines for First Timers

I had to put blogging on hold since our connection isn't going really well right now. And due to a friend's demand, what I will be blogging about would be "Guidelines for First Timers".

And as usual, we'd be focusing on sex. I've had quite a number of friends who were very disappointed with their first time experience so one suggested that I should make a guideline about it.

First timers usually rely on what they see from movies or clips, specially from porn. As a matter of fact, I find it useful but there is always a tendency that what you'll follow is not what your partner will like. So you have to make sure that what you will be doing will satisfy both of your needs without going overboard or maybe, disappoint each other.

There will be three types of First Timers and the categories would be,

A. First Time for Virgins (Type A)

- Basically means that both of you are virgins 

B. First Time for Virgins (Type B)

- Basically means that one of you is a virgin

C. First Time for Non Virgins

- Both of you are not virgins yet it would be the first time that you would be having sex

Now let's be more intricate with each type.

No offense for virgins out there but this might be a possibility or maybe, close enough.

A. First Time for Virgins (Type A)

1. Take it slow.

- Don't rush things. You're not in a hurry aren't you? I've always believed that every person's first sexual encounter must be special. Don't follow what you usually see in porn where they'd just devour each other like hungry beasts. I know, it's a total turn on. But we're talking about your first time so you might want to slow down a bit. :)

2. Know each other's body

- I'm not saying this literally so don't take it that way. What I'm pointing out is find out where your partner's erogenous zones are. Neck, ears, boobs, tummy or whatever part it would be, you'll know. And how to? Well, here's a tip. Slowly caress and kiss your partner all over and the part where you'd get a moan in response, not the usual kind of moan though and that's it. Always remember those zones and your sex life will have a great start.

3. Prolong foreplay

- Yes, this is quite hard to imagine when you're virgins. The rush of being able to feel what it would be like to have a warm pussy wrap around yours (for males) or how it would feel to have a hard dick enter and break your love cave for the first time (for females) might make you of control but please don't. Prolong foreplay as much as possible, in this way, the first and second guideline fits in. You'll take it slow and you can get to know each other's body better.

4. Give and take
- Both of you are virgins and it's only natural that it would be the guy who would take the lead. Sex is always a give and take process and it is quite understandable if the female would usually have hesitations or what ifs even during the intercourse. So guys, you have to treat your partner gently and girls, never give up your virginity when you're not definite. It would lead to trouble. And another thing, girls, don't act all embarrassed during the deed. It might be cute but some definitely go overboard with the act. Also, you can't just lie and have your partner please you, you also have to please him in return.

5. The Deed
- To make it short and simple, start with the missionary style. Since I was told that it is the best position to start with when you're about to lose your virginity ( for females ) though mine wasn't that. And you could start experimenting with other positions later on as long as both of you are comfortable with it already. And for guys, don't rush on cumming. I think it's self explanatory why it isn't advisable for men to cum fast.

Woman in control <3 Hell hot!

B. First Time for Virgins (Type B)

Well, the guidelines for Type A would just correspond with this but with minor changes on 4 and 5.

For Give and Take, I stated that it would be natural for the guy to take the lead, but this time around, the person who should take the lead should be the one with experience already. But nevertheless, even if it would be the girl who would take the lead, the guy would still be obliged to please her as much as possible without breaking the momentum.

And for the deed, if it's the girl who is the virgin, you could just follow the guide number 5 on Type A, but if it would be the guy, heck you can do all you want. Go total hardcore if you'd like to. Nah, just kidding but if the thought amuses you, feel free to apply it. Start with a cowgirl or reverse cowgirl or whatever position you'd like as long as the woman is in control then without breaking the moment, the girl goes on submissive and the guy becomes the dominant until he finishes. AND PLEASE, DON'T RUSH!

Wild and definitely loving it. Hardcore is <3

C. First Time for Non Virgins

And once more, minor changes on 4 and 5.

For Give and Take, well, the one who would be dominant would rely on your decisions. Maybe you'd take turns or whatever the hell you want to do as long as you give back whatever pleasure you may receive :)

For the deed, well, be free to do whatever the hell you want to do as long as both of you are comfortable with it. So it's best advised for you to talk before getting it on. And don't rely on the same old boring positions. Try new things. On my part, I use Kamasutra Lite App on Android to try random positions but since it's your first time, if one of you is not really up for it then I guess you could stick to the basics. And then again, there's always another way, like convincing your partner :)



So that's it! Those are the top 5 basic guidelines I could come up for first timers. There might be more but as long as you also keep what I posted in mind and add them with your ideas, your sex life is off to a great journey.

Stay updated. I'm planning to make Top No-No's during Sex. I was inspired with the idea while I was watching porn. The girl had too much unnatural make up that made her look like a witch and I know for sure she wasn't cosplaying. And the guy didn't even do foreplay and I was like, damn, some people need to learn. Yes, they were amateurs but you get the idea. Thanks for reading <3

Guidelines in Picking a Possible Fuck Buddy

Alright! I know you're probably wondering why my blog posts are related to fuck buddies / friends with benefits / no strings attached relationships. Well, I guess you could say that I can relate to it, in a way. It helps me in keeping tab on the things that I should consider and remember when it comes to this kind of relationship. And I just felt like sharing it to other people who might need a guideline or people who are just interested or curious.

A fuck buddy relationship is not as simple as it presents itself. It is complicated. Much more complicated than a romantic love affair. There are rules and boundaries that you have to keenly observe, follow and respect. Well, let's start from the basic, shall we?

in Picking a Possible Fuck Buddy

You definitely don't want to just choose a random person to be your fuck buddy, don't you? You want a fuck buddy because you want your sexual urges to be sated, without the drama and complications of love SO YOU NEED TO BE CAREFUL ON WHO TO CHOOSE.

1.) Pick someone you're comfortable with

- Of course he/she must be someone who you could feel free to be yourself and you truly are comfortable with so there won't be any awkward moments especially when you're doing the deed. And plus side? It would be easier to suggest to be more adventurous or whatever you feel like suggesting to spice up the sexual relationship.

2.) Make sure he/she is free from any transmittable disease, specially sexual related

- You don't want to get a nasty disease, don't you? Remember, your safety is the priority. If you're not safe, there would also be lesser chances of you getting laid. I'm not sure if that's a bad thing but for me, it is. Just kidding. What I'm trying to point out is YOUR HEALTH MUST BE TREASURED!

3.) Make sure your partner isn't committed to anybody else

- No one wants to be a third party even if the relationship is purely sexual. And you can make sure and guarantee of the safety of the bedlationship if you two are exclusive fuck buddies. (You can see why on the rule number one of my other blog post on Guidelines for Fuck Buddy Relationships)

4.) Make sure that your partner is someone you could trust

- And if possible, it would be better if he/she were someone who you really are acquainted with for quite some time. Someone who you really know you could trust. Trust is the foundation of every relationship, after all. 

5.) Make sure that your partner is someone who can unleash the beast in you 

- Sounds weird? But hey, let's be honest. You want a fuck buddy to satisfy your lust, right? So obviously, pick someone who can make you wild! On or off bed. (You can do it on other places) Alright, I was trying to joke around but my point is, pick someone whose sexual urges are on par with yours. Or in simple terms, someone who you are sexually compatible. 

So there are the five main guidelines in picking a possible fuck buddy, you can add a few more but overall, those stated above are the most essential in picking a fuck buddy. SO, HAVE FUN SEARCHING <3

Ten Signs That Your Girl Has Given Up On You

Dear guys, we all know that girls are complicated and hard to read but here are ten sure telltale signs to look out for most girls that will tell you when she has already given up on you. Or maybe, starting to give up.


1. SHE WILL NOT TRY TO CATCH YOUR ATTENTION.

- Girls like to fish for attention, whether in an obvious or secretive manner, they always want to catch the attention of the people who they are interested with. So the moment she stops trying to fish for compliments or even catch your attention, immediately ask her. She might say, "Nothing's wrong." but trust me, when a woman says nothing is wrong, SOMETHING IS DEFINITELY WRONG. So don't give up or chicken out until you find out what has been bugging her.

2. SHE WILL NOT FIGHT FOR YOU ANYMORE.

-This doesn't necessarily mean cat fights but the fact that she'd care less and even stop getting jealous means that the relationship is going downhill. One trait that is rampant among most females is that they easily get jealous, even with the most nonsensical thing in the world. They get jealous because they care a lot about the people they are interested with. (Well, the level and intensity of the jealousy differs among females though so you better watch out for that.)

3. SHE WON'T REPLY YOUR MESSAGE QUICKLY ANYMORE.

- Females always reply fast as much as possible to the people they are interested with. Even if they're doing something important, she'll always be mindful and reply as fast as she could. So one indicator that she has started to give up is when she replies late or it takes too long for her to respond even if she is doing nothing. And worst? When she says she's busy to reply even when in reality, she's absolutely doing nothing.

4. SHE WON'T TRY TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING ANYMORE.

-As I have said, females like to catch the attention of the people they are interested in and would do anything to keep the conversation going. Even if the replies are total conversation stoppers, if a female is truly interested, she would divert the conversation to another topic but if not, she'll leave it as is and man, you need to remedy that ASAP.

5. SHE WILL NOT CARE ANYMORE.

-I'll make this short. She'll stop caring. She'll stop asking if you ate already, where you have been, what your plans are, where you plan on going, who you're with, what you're doing. That kind of stuff. She would no longer care and she would no longer be curious.

6. SHE WILL NO LONGER BE JEALOUS.

- As I said, females get jealous easily even on the most nonsensical thing in the world but that is just a proof that they care a lot. So once she will no longer be jealous then that only means that she doesn't give a damn about you any longer. Poor guy :(

7. SHE WILL FLIRT AND TALK TO OTHER GUYS.

- Faithful females would always avoid flirting and talking to other guys in fear that the person they are interested in might misunderstand so it would be an obvious sign that she has already started to stop minding about your existence in her life.

8. SHE WILL NO LONGER CARE IF YOU CARE OR NOT ANYMORE.

-Whether they'd admit it or not, girls would always try to make you jealous or mad just to see and check if you care about her or not. But once she stops trying and even caring to the point of sarcasm, well, I suggest you better prepare yourself buddy.

9. SHE WILL NO LONGER GO TO YOUR PROFILE AND WHINE TO PEOPLE ABOUT HOW HAPPY YOU ARE TALKING TO OTHER GIRLS.

-Girls will always be girls. The jealous type. They'd stalk, observe and check your movement most of the time if possible and when she sees something that would make her jealous, she'd transform into a drama queen and make her FB wall a way to vent out what she feels. I'm not saying all though, but MOST girls are like that. So even if you get lovey dovey with someone on your account publicly, in hope of making her jealous, once she gives up, SHE WON'T CARE CAUSE SHE ALREADY STOPPED KEEPING TABS ON YOU.

10. SHE WILL GIVE UP ON TRYING TO MAKE YOU LOVE HER BECAUSE SHE FINALLY REALIZED THAT SHE DESERVES BETTER. 

-If you add all the signs, everything will add up to this. She will give up on everything related to the two of you. She will give up on pleasing you, on making you happy, on making you love her more because she realized that she deserves someone better. No matter who's fault it might be, the bottomline is she has given up on you and it is up to you if you'll make it up to her so the relationship will sail smoothly again or if you will just give up too.

Personally, I believe that everything could be solved through peaceful talking so if you truly love your girl, don't and never take her for granted because once she gives up on you, it would take a long time on winning her back :) Happy loving, people <3

Ten Rules/Guidelines for Fuck Buddy Relationships

"Ten Rules / Guidelines for Fuck Buddy Relationships"

1.) No Sleeping With More Than One Fuck Buddy
- I know you're like, "What? Then what's the point of the whole friends with benefits thing if I can fuck one person at a time?" Srsly dude and gals, hold your horses. YOU HAVE TO BE SAFE. I know there are contraceptives but it isn't a hundred percent safe, you know. You don't want to go around unprotected and get some nasty disease plus, you don't want to say the wrong name cause that would totally ruin the mood.

2.) Make Sure Both Parties Know It Is a Fuck Buddy Relationship
- Before indulging in the deed, make sure both parties know that the relationship is purely sexual and for fun. There is a huge tendency (specially for girls) to go a bit overboard with their emotions and even affect the relationship. Girls, admit it or not, we do go overboard at times. I admit, I was like that when I first started but I got used to it later on. So make sure to clearly assess the relationship so no one would get hurt in the end 

3.) Don't Act Like The Other Person Doesn't Exist Outside The Bedroom
- Fuck Buddies, people! Take away the fuck and you are BUDDIES! FRIENDS! So don't act like you don't know each other after the deed or whenever you happen to meet up accidentally or whatever. You get the point.

4.) Don't Act Like The Other Person Is Your Significant Other 
- This is totally related to rule number two. You're not going out. You don't have a romantic relationship so you don't have any right to be jealous or be downright unreasonable when he / she happens to flirt with another person. As long as your partner doesnt break the first rule, then nothing is wrong with that 

5.) Be Honest About Emotions 
- Shit happens when you try to deny yourself about what you truly feel. If you happen to develop special feelings for your fuck buddy, tell her/him directly and you can talk about what should be the next step. And please, whatever your position would be, be honest about what you feel. If you like each other, take everything slowly. If not, then discuss what countermeasure should be done for that developing emotion. Your relationship is formal and kind of, business like, if you ask me so it should be discussed in serious manner when you're talking about emotions.

6.) Is This An Open or Closed FB Relationship
- Make sure your agreement on that matter is clear. If you want to keep your relationship hidden, well then tell your partner. If he/she agrees, then it's alright. But if it's a NO, accept it. Not everyone accepts the idea of Friends with Benefits relationship as a good one, so personally, don't blab to other people. You can talk about it to close and chosen people but don't be a fucking tattletale. AND REMEMBER, ONLY WITH PERMISSION FROM YOUR PARTNER 

7.) Buddies First
- Relate this to rule number three. You're buddies! FRIENDS! Make sure that the person that you're having a FwB relationship is someone you're comfortable with. You don't want to fuck someone who you're awkward with, right? And if the rule between the two of you goes like, talk-fuck-leave, then that's it. But if it goes like, hang out-talk-fuck-stay over then let it be. Just don't go overboard and be romantic cause that would totally ruin everything.

8.) No Romance 
- This is totally related to rule number seven and DAMN, THIS RULE IS A BIG ONE! A total NO-NO! You're relationship is not romantic so DON'T MAKE IT ONE! Romance is too close to love and remember, you can only be romantic to someone who you really want to be involved with. Bringing in romance to a FwB relationship can cause trouble and you don't want that.

9.) No Comparisons
- Well, comparing is just downright rude. It's a new person. New body to explore. No two bodies are the same. Be adventurous. Explore. Don't be tied to your previous partners.

10.) The Ending 
- Same like any other relationship, when it comes to an end, don't be hung up on it. Stay friends even though a big change has happened. Everything will just work out right. Respect each other's decisions if one day, your partner, or maybe you will want to terminate the relationship. The reason might be, either one of you has found a romantic love affair or maybe one of you decided to cool things off due to work related or family related or whatever related issues. Respect, accept, move on. That's just how life goes. 

Oh and just another tip, PLEASE DON'T CHOOSE A FuBu WHO IS COMMITTED! Karma slaps like a bitch, you know  Maybe I should create a guideline on how to choose a Fuck Buddy hahaha. Oh well.