And as usual, we'd be focusing on sex. I've had quite a number of friends who were very disappointed with their first time experience so one suggested that I should make a guideline about it.
First timers usually rely on what they see from movies or clips, specially from porn. As a matter of fact, I find it useful but there is always a tendency that what you'll follow is not what your partner will like. So you have to make sure that what you will be doing will satisfy both of your needs without going overboard or maybe, disappoint each other.
There will be three types of First Timers and the categories would be,
A. First Time for Virgins (Type A)
- Basically means that both of you are virgins
B. First Time for Virgins (Type B)
- Basically means that one of you is a virgin
C. First Time for Non Virgins
- Both of you are not virgins yet it would be the first time that you would be having sex
Now let's be more intricate with each type.
No offense for virgins out there but this might be a possibility or maybe, close enough.
A. First Time for Virgins (Type A)
1. Take it slow.
- Don't rush things. You're not in a hurry aren't you? I've always believed that every person's first sexual encounter must be special. Don't follow what you usually see in porn where they'd just devour each other like hungry beasts. I know, it's a total turn on. But we're talking about your first time so you might want to slow down a bit. :)
2. Know each other's body
- I'm not saying this literally so don't take it that way. What I'm pointing out is find out where your partner's erogenous zones are. Neck, ears, boobs, tummy or whatever part it would be, you'll know. And how to? Well, here's a tip. Slowly caress and kiss your partner all over and the part where you'd get a moan in response, not the usual kind of moan though and that's it. Always remember those zones and your sex life will have a great start.
3. Prolong foreplay
- Yes, this is quite hard to imagine when you're virgins. The rush of being able to feel what it would be like to have a warm pussy wrap around yours (for males) or how it would feel to have a hard dick enter and break your love cave for the first time (for females) might make you of control but please don't. Prolong foreplay as much as possible, in this way, the first and second guideline fits in. You'll take it slow and you can get to know each other's body better.
4. Give and take
- Both of you are virgins and it's only natural that it would be the guy who would take the lead. Sex is always a give and take process and it is quite understandable if the female would usually have hesitations or what ifs even during the intercourse. So guys, you have to treat your partner gently and girls, never give up your virginity when you're not definite. It would lead to trouble. And another thing, girls, don't act all embarrassed during the deed. It might be cute but some definitely go overboard with the act. Also, you can't just lie and have your partner please you, you also have to please him in return.
5. The Deed
- To make it short and simple, start with the missionary style. Since I was told that it is the best position to start with when you're about to lose your virginity ( for females ) though mine wasn't that. And you could start experimenting with other positions later on as long as both of you are comfortable with it already. And for guys, don't rush on cumming. I think it's self explanatory why it isn't advisable for men to cum fast.
B. First Time for Virgins (Type B)
- Both of you are virgins and it's only natural that it would be the guy who would take the lead. Sex is always a give and take process and it is quite understandable if the female would usually have hesitations or what ifs even during the intercourse. So guys, you have to treat your partner gently and girls, never give up your virginity when you're not definite. It would lead to trouble. And another thing, girls, don't act all embarrassed during the deed. It might be cute but some definitely go overboard with the act. Also, you can't just lie and have your partner please you, you also have to please him in return.
5. The Deed
- To make it short and simple, start with the missionary style. Since I was told that it is the best position to start with when you're about to lose your virginity ( for females ) though mine wasn't that. And you could start experimenting with other positions later on as long as both of you are comfortable with it already. And for guys, don't rush on cumming. I think it's self explanatory why it isn't advisable for men to cum fast.
Woman in control <3 Hell hot!
Well, the guidelines for Type A would just correspond with this but with minor changes on 4 and 5.
For Give and Take, I stated that it would be natural for the guy to take the lead, but this time around, the person who should take the lead should be the one with experience already. But nevertheless, even if it would be the girl who would take the lead, the guy would still be obliged to please her as much as possible without breaking the momentum.
And for the deed, if it's the girl who is the virgin, you could just follow the guide number 5 on Type A, but if it would be the guy, heck you can do all you want. Go total hardcore if you'd like to. Nah, just kidding but if the thought amuses you, feel free to apply it. Start with a cowgirl or reverse cowgirl or whatever position you'd like as long as the woman is in control then without breaking the moment, the girl goes on submissive and the guy becomes the dominant until he finishes. AND PLEASE, DON'T RUSH!
For Give and Take, I stated that it would be natural for the guy to take the lead, but this time around, the person who should take the lead should be the one with experience already. But nevertheless, even if it would be the girl who would take the lead, the guy would still be obliged to please her as much as possible without breaking the momentum.
And for the deed, if it's the girl who is the virgin, you could just follow the guide number 5 on Type A, but if it would be the guy, heck you can do all you want. Go total hardcore if you'd like to. Nah, just kidding but if the thought amuses you, feel free to apply it. Start with a cowgirl or reverse cowgirl or whatever position you'd like as long as the woman is in control then without breaking the moment, the girl goes on submissive and the guy becomes the dominant until he finishes. AND PLEASE, DON'T RUSH!
Wild and definitely loving it. Hardcore is <3
C. First Time for Non Virgins
And once more, minor changes on 4 and 5.
For Give and Take, well, the one who would be dominant would rely on your decisions. Maybe you'd take turns or whatever the hell you want to do as long as you give back whatever pleasure you may receive :)
For the deed, well, be free to do whatever the hell you want to do as long as both of you are comfortable with it. So it's best advised for you to talk before getting it on. And don't rely on the same old boring positions. Try new things. On my part, I use Kamasutra Lite App on Android to try random positions but since it's your first time, if one of you is not really up for it then I guess you could stick to the basics. And then again, there's always another way, like convincing your partner :)
So that's it! Those are the top 5 basic guidelines I could come up for first timers. There might be more but as long as you also keep what I posted in mind and add them with your ideas, your sex life is off to a great journey.
Stay updated. I'm planning to make Top No-No's during Sex. I was inspired with the idea while I was watching porn. The girl had too much unnatural make up that made her look like a witch and I know for sure she wasn't cosplaying. And the guy didn't even do foreplay and I was like, damn, some people need to learn. Yes, they were amateurs but you get the idea. Thanks for reading <3
